Lesson Learned in 2015

I’m a little late with this post but not too far off the mark.  Here is what I learned in 2015

Talking to people is not so scaryYou actually need to go after what you want and not sit on your ass and wait for shit to happen to you

The importance of networking with others because it will help your career not hurt it

Try new things and do not be afraid to say yes to new adventures or tasks

Get rid of toxic friends or family who are not there for you when you need it

I have hated being the person that was there for everyone else when they had troubles or needed advice but would not receive the same in return.  When I needed something from certain friends or just wanted to chat I was turned down or they said no which sucked.  Through the year I realized that people are just out for themselves and some do not truly care about others.  Some people just do what is good at the time or would benefit them in the long run.  So, take it from me and give these people the ax or do what Donald Trump does and say “You’re fired”.  To think that after all these years of so called friendship I was the schmuck and  didn’t kick these people to the curb sooner.

Smile at people and compliment them more to make them happy

Learned to let things go and not obsess over things

Figuring out your own problems instead of blaming others

Thinking and ruminating about the past will only hinder you and keep you from moving forward

Enjoy every minute you are with family and friends.  Seriously you never know when they’ll be gone so cherish whatever you do with them.  Especially your parents and grandparents because they continue to get old and you never know when it will be the last time you see them.

Nailed and perfected a go to everyday beauty routine.  I found one that I love and it stuck with me during the past year.

Do not be afraid to be you and if you fuck up it’s ok because everybody does at some point during their lives

Realized that your not that far away from turning the big 3-0 and that I’m slowly getting old.  People still say I’m young but at this point I would consider 21 to be young at this point.  Kind of wish I could go back to that age. Getting older is scary especially since it feels like I don’t really have things figured out.  But does anyone ever have things completely figured out?

Learn from your mistakes so you do not make the same one twice or three times.  This is always a hard one for me because I hate revisiting my failures and mistakes in life but nobody really does.  This always makes me uncomfortable and vulnerable.  The truth is I just want to move on and leave the past mistakes behind!


Bye Felicia: To my year of firsts



In the blink of an eye another year has come and gone.  It truly feels like I just celebrated 2015 and wondered what  adventures would come during the year.  Now it’s time to say adieu 2015 and welcome in another new year.  But first, a recap of 2015!   Well, 2015 has proven very eventful since  numerous changes and adventures occurred during the course of the year.  The year started off with a bang as many firsts were tackled in the wee hours of 2015.  After,  changes kept on coming with some being more beneficial than others.  All of the changes caused 2015 to be a memorable year aka the year of firsts.

Firsts tackled in 2015: 

New Year’s celebration without my friends

First New Year’s outside of my hometown in NY

First time living in an apartment

Living outside of NY

Road trip to NY

Visiting Milan and Rome in Italy

Building shelves

Moving into a new house

Driving everyday: in NY I took mass transit

Not having snow in the winter

Increasing my confidence to talk to people

Redo and decorate my new room

Working at one of the most interesting schools ever

Flying solo during my overseas trip (longest flight ever)

Learning the power of my voice and how to stand up for myself and handle thing son my own

Actually dealing with my issues head on

Getting rid of toxic friends

Shooting guns at a shooting range

NHL game

First time seeing the Yankees play

Canoeing down a river

Writing in my journal everyday

Finding my holy grail makeup

Learning to let things go an just be as they are

Use new tools and  built a shelf

Cooking and baking new recipes

Learn to just go with the flow and realize that everything happens for a reason


So, it’s time to say bye Felicia to 2015 and hello 2016. 2016 will be my year yes.  New things will be tried within reason of course and I will say yes to everything.


How to Be Happy…

Since the holidays are upon us and the new year not far behind it I wanted to share this email I got from a friend.  Enjoy and feel free to share.  I am not sure of the source of this list but I did not write it.


How to be happy…

Be physically active 10-30 minutes every day.

Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

Sleep for 7 hours.

Live with the 3 E’s: Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

Play more games.

Read more books than you did last year.

Drink plenty of water.

Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a beggar.

Make time to practice mediation, and prayer.

Try new things.

Smile and laugh more.

Try to make at least three people smile each day.

Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.

Don’t have negative thoughts about things you cannot control.  Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 16.

Try not to hate others. (Life is too short to waste time hating anyone)

Don’t take yourself too seriously. (no one else does)

Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past.  This will ruin your present happiness.

Realize that life is school and you are here to learn.  Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away.

Agree to disagree.  You don’t have to win every argument.

Don’t compare your life to others.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

Stay in touch.  Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick.  Your family and friends will.

Forgive everyone for everything.

What other people think of you is none of your business.

However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

Envy is a waste of time.  You already have all you need.

The best is yet to come.

Treat others as you wish to be treated.

Don’t overdo.  Keep your limits.

Your inner most is always happy.  So be happy.

Do the right thing.

Talk to your family often.

Each day give something good to others.

Stick to your principles, no matter what.

Dream more while you are awake.

Smile when you walk.

Find joy in simplicity.

Growing up with ideas doesn’t mean you’re right.

Hope you enjoyed it! Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!!


Now it’s time to say goodbye to the age of 25

As I sit here contemplating this post the hours and minutes are ticking by as my twenty fifth year comes to a close.  Who would have thought that twenty-five years of my  life have squeaked by in the blink of an eye.  I for one didn’t think I would be sitting here or inching my way closer to thirty so soon.  It feels like yesterday that I graduated college, turned 21, and began my life in the real world without the comfort and safety of my small college campus.  Now things have changed and as I get farther into adulthood I am reflecting on my life so far and the rest of it yet to live.  This birthday really hit me hard and caused me to reevaluate what I have been doing with my life and was a much needed wake up for me to start living more, become proactive, and set goals for the years ahead.  Int he past twenty five years I have accomplished numerous things and goals I had but need to have some new goals and dreams for the next chapter of my life. well, I’ll see how it goes.

So, now it’s time to say goodbye to the year of twenty five, embrace the age of twenty six, and enjoy the last part of my twenties.  In not such a long time I’ll be thirty … yikes, not looking forward to that day!