An insight to an ending

So, over the past few weeks I have been thinking about my ex a lot. This was by far my worst breakup and I think the fact that I did not get closure and how much of a shock the break up was deeply affected me. I try not to replay events that occurred during our relationship and wonder what could have been between us.

One point that stuck out recently was a discussion my ex and I had about the ending of the book Brooklyn by: Colm Tobin. We both read the book and discussed it. The ending of the novel was a rather tricky discussion for us because we both had different viewpoints about how the novel closed. I agreed with the ending and stated my reasons why and my ex did not agree with the ending and stated his reasons why. It was a fun discussion and neither of us bashed each because of our views. When everything was said and done we never brought up the book again but i have always remembered the discussion.

Recently, a close family member read the book and we discussed it and of course talked about the ending.  For those of you that don’t know the ending of the book: Eilis, main character, chooses to travel back to Brooklyn to be with Tony, a young man she married, instead of stay in her hometown of  Einscorthy, Ireland with a man she met named Jim.  We discussed the ending and it took me back to when my ex and I were talking about it.  It was eye opening rememberance  now because of how that long ago conversation about the book that I had with my ex was  foreshadowing of our relationship history.  I was the more spontaneous, adventurous and emotional one.  He was the one who played it safe, wouldn’t take risks, was logical, and unemotional.  I guess I did not think of it then but that’s how our relationship was.  He would not get out of his comfort zone or his hometown town to explore other areas or be spontaneous with me.  He would want to stay close to his home or do things that were convienet or comfortable to him.  He was a lot like Jim in the story.  I was more like Eilis because I wanted to experience different things and have new adventures instead of do the same things or stay in the same place.

In regards to our discussion about the ending of the book I agreed with the ending of the story believing that Elish saw that there was no future or growth for her in Ireland.  She would be in the same town she grew up in with the same people of her past who will not not let her forget her past and would always remind her of it. Also, there are not many opportunities for her to travel or have a career in her hometown or while she was with  Jim. Yes, Eilis would have had a comfortable life with Jim, who was  was very content running the pub for the rest of his life, but I could sense Eilis wanted more than the simple life.

My ex disagreed and said that Elish would have been better off staying with Jim because he has a stable job and would be able to provide for Eilis.  He did no think it was right how Eilis left Jim without truly saying goodbye.  He thought that Jim would be the better choice for Eilis than Tony would have because he felt that she could have better and more stable life in Ireland than she could in America.  His opinion was fine but I should have really listened and saw the similarities between things but I didn’t.

Our discussion foreshadowed the ending of our relationship.  I wanted more effort put into our relationship, I was the more adventurous one, and I could not sit in the same place on a couch all day and watch the world pass me by.  Basically things ended in part  because he played it too safe like Jim and would not initiate plans or explore new places like Tony.  So, that is partly how it ended and what influenced it’s end.  Oh, boy, I love this book but after that convo with my family member it made me think so much about my last relationship.   I think I need to take the advice of the quote below and just move forward and start a new.

NY Adventure: NYC

 New York City

My hometown and it holds a special place in my heart!  Here are some things that my family loves to do in the city area!

Brooklyn

Sahadis 

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I love going here whenever I am in Brooklyn.  it was a go-to place to get special treats and foods whenever we would visit my Grandparents.  My go to treats are the Cocoa dusted almonds, chocolate milk balls, black licorice, and chocolate covered cashews.  Food my family loves: stuffed grape leaves, Hummus, Spinach Pies, Wild rice Salad, Lentils and rice, Baba gang.  I miss this place and wish they could ship all of this food down here to the South.  This is a must stop shop if you are in the Brooklyn area.

Grimaldi’s

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One of the best slices of pizza I have ever had.  It is not my favorite that honor goes to Denino’s pizza on Staten Island but it comes pretty close.  They make pizza in a real coal oven!  Just look at the place during the day and you can tell how popular it is by the ver present line.  They became so popular that the pizza shop moved locations!  They did not move far at all just right around the corner.  The old location has the awning and the new location is the white building.  No matter where they move I am sure that they will have a line going around the corner!  A true Brooklyn staple!

Coney Island

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This is such a fun place to spend the day!  We visit the aquarium, Astroland (now Luna Park), Nathan’s hot dogs, the beach, and of course you cannot forget a ride on the Cyclone! The Cyclone is one of the highlights of a Coney Island trip even though the fare keeps increasing.  The last time I rode this roller coaster my sister and I were in the front row!  It is a fun and nostalgic place to visit and I love spending time there!  Go and just experience all that Coney Island has to offer!  It is a must see if you are in the Brooklyn/NYC area!

Nathans Famous

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The one and only original Nathan’s.  We always stop here for hot dogs and fries!  This is a treat and I love coming here especially after walking on the boardwalk or after seeing a Brooklyn Cyclones game!

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Govenors Island

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One of my favorite places to visit in NYC!  It is a gem of a place in the middle of  the East River!  You can only get there by boat which you can catch  right down the street from the Staten Island Ferry Terminal.  We went on opening day 2016 and it was amazing!  When I lived in NY I loved spending time here just walking around and exploring the island.  My friends and I picniced here and it was a fun memory.

This time my family and I rented a four person bike to ride around the island!  It was a ton of fun and was a quick and easy way to get to all ends of the island and explore.  This definitely beat walking around the whole island because it took less time.  The day was absolutely gorgeous and my family and I got tons of pretty photo ops!  I truly felt like a tourist because we never took pictures featuring the NYC skyline or SI ferry but we could not pass up the opportunity or beautiful weather.  If you are in lower Manhattan Governors Island is a must see!

Wo Hop: 17 Mott Street

The best and I repeat the best Chinese food I ever had! BTW, this is the downstairs restaurant and not to be confused with the Wo Hop at 15 Mott St.  The two are not the same place or connected so make sure you are entering 17 Mott street!  It is a small little place with cheap food and big portions!  It is also opened 24/7 so it is a great place to go after a night around town!  Some of my favorite dishes are: Fried dumplings!! You must get these!! These are the best friend dumplings I have ever had and thoroughly enjoy them whenever I am at Wo Hop!  Roast Duck Chow Mai Fun: I love it and it is a total comfort food and great way to end a night or late afternoon! Moo Shu Pork: This is my sisters favorite dish and she gets it overtime we visit Wo Hop!  I love it and we always wind up taking the leftovers home!

Di Paolo’s Fine Foods

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My family has been coming to Di Paolo’s for the last 30 years.  My grandparents came here to get cheeses and meats for holidays and everyday use.  My mom and dad shopped here and then it transferred down to my sister and I.  So my family, technically my moms side of the family, has made this place a staple and tradition in our family!  Every family gathering, holiday, or special occasion featured goodies from Di Paolo’s!  It is a family run store and I love going in and talking to Lou about the cheeses!  Many of the cheeses are fro Northern Italy which is the region that my grandparents are from! Go to treats: Fontina cheese, Taleggio cheese, Soppersatta, Sausages, Parmigiano cheese grated, Romano cheese grated, Mortadella, Mozzarella cheeses.  One thing my family does is ask for some cheese rinds so that we can use it in our Italian white bean stew which we make once a year at Thanksgiving!

Piemonte Ravioli

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This is our go to place for pasta!  they make it fresh and it is easy for a person to tell!  We love this pasta and I wish I could have it all the time!  Our go to pastas are: Pumpkin Ravioli, Cheese Ravioli, Tortellini, gnocchi, and Spinach fettucini.  My personal favorites are the pumpkin ravioli (don’t knockout until you have tried it) and the spinach fettucini.  We eat the spinach fettucini with ricotta cheese instead of sauce and it is amazing!  The pumpkin ravioli is enjoyed plain with a bit of olive oil.

Banging Books: May and June

Where’d You Go Bernadette

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I read this book for my monthly book club and enjoyed the story.  It is different than a typical book I’d pick up at the book store which is a good thing.  The book focuses on Bernadette an agoraphobic woman and the effects that it has on the relationships with her family and the outside world.  The book varies narration between Bernadette and her daughter Bee.  This book is he perfect summer read and is lighthearted and funny.  Pick up this quirky story today!

To Kill a Mockingbird

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This is one of my new favorite books!  I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and could hardly  put it down!  It is one of the best books that I have read in a long time!  There are so many themes and topics covered in this story and it is an enlightening read.  My favorite character is Atticus and he is one of the most developed and likable characters in literature!  Do yourself a favor and buy this book right now!  You will not be disappointed!

Brooklyn

A coming of age story about an Irish girl, Eilis Lacey, and adventures in Brooklyn and Ireland.  This story reveals Eilis’ change in thoughts, maturity, view on life, and the  This book is well written and the perfect story for a NY lover

No Baggage

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This is a unique book is about Clara benson’s journey with a man whom she met on OKCupid.  It is about her conquering her anxiety and starting a new adventure with a near stranger.  I found this relatable due to the fact that Clara suffered from anxiety , is around my age, has relatable qualities, and travels int hr book.  I love this book and while it is not the best book I have read it is enjoyable!  I loved reading her reflections on all of the countries she explored and how she recounted her journey! Perfect for a summertime read!  Loved it!