An insight to an ending

So, over the past few weeks I have been thinking about my ex a lot. This was by far my worst breakup and I think the fact that I did not get closure and how much of a shock the break up was deeply affected me. I try not to replay events that occurred during our relationship and wonder what could have been between us.

One point that stuck out recently was a discussion my ex and I had about the ending of the book Brooklyn by: Colm Tobin. We both read the book and discussed it. The ending of the novel was a rather tricky discussion for us because we both had different viewpoints about how the novel closed. I agreed with the ending and stated my reasons why and my ex did not agree with the ending and stated his reasons why. It was a fun discussion and neither of us bashed each because of our views. When everything was said and done we never brought up the book again but i have always remembered the discussion.

Recently, a close family member read the book and we discussed it and of course talked about the ending.  For those of you that don’t know the ending of the book: Eilis, main character, chooses to travel back to Brooklyn to be with Tony, a young man she married, instead of stay in her hometown of  Einscorthy, Ireland with a man she met named Jim.  We discussed the ending and it took me back to when my ex and I were talking about it.  It was eye opening rememberance  now because of how that long ago conversation about the book that I had with my ex was  foreshadowing of our relationship history.  I was the more spontaneous, adventurous and emotional one.  He was the one who played it safe, wouldn’t take risks, was logical, and unemotional.  I guess I did not think of it then but that’s how our relationship was.  He would not get out of his comfort zone or his hometown town to explore other areas or be spontaneous with me.  He would want to stay close to his home or do things that were convienet or comfortable to him.  He was a lot like Jim in the story.  I was more like Eilis because I wanted to experience different things and have new adventures instead of do the same things or stay in the same place.

In regards to our discussion about the ending of the book I agreed with the ending of the story believing that Elish saw that there was no future or growth for her in Ireland.  She would be in the same town she grew up in with the same people of her past who will not not let her forget her past and would always remind her of it. Also, there are not many opportunities for her to travel or have a career in her hometown or while she was with  Jim. Yes, Eilis would have had a comfortable life with Jim, who was  was very content running the pub for the rest of his life, but I could sense Eilis wanted more than the simple life.

My ex disagreed and said that Elish would have been better off staying with Jim because he has a stable job and would be able to provide for Eilis.  He did no think it was right how Eilis left Jim without truly saying goodbye.  He thought that Jim would be the better choice for Eilis than Tony would have because he felt that she could have better and more stable life in Ireland than she could in America.  His opinion was fine but I should have really listened and saw the similarities between things but I didn’t.

Our discussion foreshadowed the ending of our relationship.  I wanted more effort put into our relationship, I was the more adventurous one, and I could not sit in the same place on a couch all day and watch the world pass me by.  Basically things ended in part  because he played it too safe like Jim and would not initiate plans or explore new places like Tony.  So, that is partly how it ended and what influenced it’s end.  Oh, boy, I love this book but after that convo with my family member it made me think so much about my last relationship.   I think I need to take the advice of the quote below and just move forward and start a new.

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Blogtember Day 12: September 12

Blogtember Day 12: Three books! One you just read, one you’re currently reading, and one you want to read.

One I Just Read: After You By: Jojo Moynes

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One of my favorite books of 2015 is Me After You!  I couldn’t put the book down and stayed up late just to get to the end of the story.  I loved it so much!  It was a well written book and went beyond my expectations!

One I Am Currently Reading: Teacher Man By: Frank McCourt

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This is an amazing book and one that I can relate to on so many levels.  I like Frank am a teacher and the stuggles he covers in the book are real.  It is so sad how nothing has seemed to changed in the teaching world since he wrote the book.  What is even scarier is the fact that he recounts experiences from the sixties in which things such as low pay, horrible principals, and overworking have not changed.  This saddened me deeply but at this point it is what it is.  I am at then end of my rope with the career and am looking to break into another field.  Seriously, do not become a teacher it is not worth all of the stress.  Do a job where you make a living in which you can support yourself.

Anyway, ranting aside let me dive a bit into the book.  It is well written and honest.  McCourt does not sugarcoat things that he experienced and I believe that it accurately displays what it was like for certain people to be teachers during that time.  Frank struggled to find his niche in the teaching world.  He dealt with horrible principals, bureaucracy, and testy students.  Eventually he found his footing in the halls of Stuyvesant High School which is one of the top schools in the country!  McCourt was able to be different and really impact his students’ lives!  I loved it and found it so relatable!  If an individual wants a story about hard work, perseverance, and the true life and experiences of a teacher than read Teacher Man!

Ones I Want to Read: The Girl With the Lower Back Tatoo By: Amy Schumer and You are a Badass By: Sincero

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Honestly, it was hard to pick books for this one because my list is a mile long.  There are numerous books I want to read but there never is enough time to read them all.  It always feels like I keep adding more books than I finish.  I have heard that Amy Schumer’s book is hilarious and enjoyable.  I was skeptical at first due to the reading of Tina Fey’s and Mindy Kaling’s book being subpar.  I hated those books and it showed that most actors and comedians should stick to their respective fields.  But I keep hearing great things about Schumer’s books so I am excited to read it.

You are a Badass was the feature of a blogger’s post that I follow. It made it onto the August favorites book list.  Usually I stray away from self help books but this one seemed unique and different than the ones I’ve seen.  The blogger praised the book so of course I added it to my list of to be read books.  I’ll see what happens and which one I read first!  Hopefully neither of the books are disappointing reads!

Have you read any of the books above?  If so, what did you think of them and what books would you recommend?

 

Blogtember Day 7 September 7th

Blogtember Day 7: Five things that bring you joy

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My Family

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Half the time they drive me nuts and the other half there are fabulous times but I think any persons can relate to that.  I am so thankful to have my family when there are so many individuals who have no one to lean on.  Throughout my life my family has supported me, cried with me, angered me, yelled at me, gave me the needed reality checks, and most of all always loved me for who I am.  They are everything and they make me so happy!

Sunrises & Sunsets

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There is no better way to start and end a day than with these two things.  They always bring me back to vacations because I would sit on the beach to watch both the sunrise and sunset.  It always happens on Montauk beach which is my favorite place in the world.  Many family dinners were had during sunset on our favorite spot on the hill which is now converted to campsites.  That makes me sad because the top of the hill gave the best views of the sunset.  Sunrise is mazing because it means that it is the start of a new day and I have another day to impact people and live my life.  Sunrises are pretty and I love how they look over the water.  I also have to mention

Books

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I am a book nerd and have been since I learned to read!  I will devour anything with words except for sic-fci and romance novels.  There is hardly a time where you catch me without a book in my hand or in my purse.  Reading is like an escape for me and causes me to reflect and think about things.  For the past year I have been part of a book club that has helped bring me out of my shell and also  allow me to discuss books with women who enjoy reading.  Without books I would not be as happy.

Health

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At first glance this is so cliche.  Majority of people list this as one of the things that they are thankful or happy about.  The older I get the more thankful I am for my great health.  In the past year I have had a few people close to me go through some health issue that affected their daily routines, independence, and ability to function.  I stood by all my friends and family during their tough times and saw the struggles they faced and how it effected their life and the people around them.  I am grateful to be able to get out of bed and live my life without pain or sickness and hope it stays that way for as long as I can.

Banging Books July

The Girl on The Train

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There has been unbelievable hype surrounding this book especially since a movie is being released in the near future.  It was a very gripping and engaging to read.  Usually I stay away from overly hyped novels because it means they are not that good or my style. This was another choice for the book club I am in and decided to get a jump start on the book.  Since I read the book I am looking forward to the movie to see how it compares to the novel.

What Alice Forgot

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This was a mediocre book.  I have read better and frankly found it difficult to get invested in the story.  Alice, main character, irritated me and I found her annoying throughout the course of the novel.  In all honesty I would have passed over this book if it were not selected for this months book club.  On another note I loved Liane Moriarty’s book Big Little Lies and was surprised that this novel did not meet my expectations.

Maybe in Another Life

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I love this book!  It came into my life at a good time!  I feel like I needed this book and could relate to Hannah, the main character.  I feel like i am going through some of the same things as her and it was great to see a book that focuses on twenty something issues compared to older adults or YA. I have found a lack of books that focus on twenty year olds or life after college but before marriage/family.  It is hard to read books about things that you have not or might not want to experience in life.  There needs to be more novels devoted to the those in-between years and the quarter life crisis.

Banging Books: May and June

Where’d You Go Bernadette

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I read this book for my monthly book club and enjoyed the story.  It is different than a typical book I’d pick up at the book store which is a good thing.  The book focuses on Bernadette an agoraphobic woman and the effects that it has on the relationships with her family and the outside world.  The book varies narration between Bernadette and her daughter Bee.  This book is he perfect summer read and is lighthearted and funny.  Pick up this quirky story today!

To Kill a Mockingbird

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This is one of my new favorite books!  I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and could hardly  put it down!  It is one of the best books that I have read in a long time!  There are so many themes and topics covered in this story and it is an enlightening read.  My favorite character is Atticus and he is one of the most developed and likable characters in literature!  Do yourself a favor and buy this book right now!  You will not be disappointed!

Brooklyn

A coming of age story about an Irish girl, Eilis Lacey, and adventures in Brooklyn and Ireland.  This story reveals Eilis’ change in thoughts, maturity, view on life, and the  This book is well written and the perfect story for a NY lover

No Baggage

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This is a unique book is about Clara benson’s journey with a man whom she met on OKCupid.  It is about her conquering her anxiety and starting a new adventure with a near stranger.  I found this relatable due to the fact that Clara suffered from anxiety , is around my age, has relatable qualities, and travels int hr book.  I love this book and while it is not the best book I have read it is enjoyable!  I loved reading her reflections on all of the countries she explored and how she recounted her journey! Perfect for a summertime read!  Loved it!

Banging Books: Summer Edition

Kick Kennedy: The Charmed Life and Tragic Death of The Favorite Kennedy: Barbara Leaming

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I have been reading so many good things about this book!  I enjoy reading about the lives of others and am very excited to dive into this book during the summertime. This intrigues me due to the focus of the book, about the life of a lesser known Kennedy, which is an unusual focus. I have noticed that a few months ago a book about Rosemary Kennedy, Rosemary: The Hidden Kennedy Daughter, so maybe this is trying to steal that books thunder. It is at the top of my summer reading list!

Paper Towns: John Green

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I have read most of his books but for some reason have skipped over Paper Towns.  So far, I have enjoyed reading his stories and have no doubt that this book will be good.  There have been tons of memorable quotes from the books I have read so far and that is always a plus for me.  I can not wait to read this story and  know that it will be an enjoyable and meaningful book.  After I finish this book I want to see the movie although I have heard mixed things about the film.

Brooklyn: Colm Toibin

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First off the movie was absolutely amazing! It can be different from the book but I did not read the book yet so I cannot comment on similarities or differences.  The movie made me want to read the book and so I shall!  The book has gotten great reviews on Goodreads.  I have high hopes for this story and know that even if the movie was different from the book that I will not be disappointed! One the top of my summer reading list for sure!

The Assistants: Camille Perri

This just seems like a really interesting read for the summer season.  I think it will be neat to see what happens to the assistant in this story.  The focus is different than typical fiction books and that is why this book intrigues me.  Here’s to hoping this is a good and enjoyable read!

Losing It: Emma Rathborne

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This book just seems really relatable to me at the moment. There might be things that I can relate to this in this book and that makes me want to read it even more. However, this might turn out to be a flop and a terrible book. This one has a 50-50 shot but I’m hoping it’s good. The topic is off the beaten path and not one that is usually written about or seen when I have been searching for a book to read. But I’ve never actually searched for a book on this topic so I guess that explains a lot of why I think this is such an uncommon topic. This will be a good summer book: I just know it!

Why We Came to the City: Christopher Jansma

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First off, this is takes place in the best city ever: NYC!  So, that alone automatically added it to my list of summer reads.  This follows the lives of four college friends as the navigate life, adulthood, relationships, work, and of course the city itself.  looks for a promising read and the reviews of this book have been great!  Also, this is relatable for me because I am a recent college graduate and have been going through life transitions and changing friendships amongst my group of friends.  This might be my favorite summer read: I hope!

Rich and Pretty: Rumaan Alam

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This sounds like the perfect book for me this summer!  I have been going through changing friendships with my closest friends during the past two years and some for the worse which totally sucks.  Was the author channeling my situation when this was written?  The theme is so relatable to me during my current state of life and it is also set in NYC.  I just have a thing for books set in NYC don’t I, it is probably because it’s my hometown.  Hopefully the book is a good as it sounds and the synopsis reads.  Fingers crossed for this story!

What books are you excited to read over the summer?  Have any that you recommend?

Banging Books: April

So, there have been some good books on my radar lately and I felt the need to share them with you all!  I am a huge book nerd and devour books daily!  These are the books I have enjoyed reading and which have been on my bookshelf as of late!  These are the banging books of April!

An Abundance of Katherines: John Green

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I read this book as a recommendation of a friend who loved it!  It was a fantastic read and had a different focus than John Green’s other novels that I have read: The Fault in Our Stars & Looking for Alaska.  It focuses on Colin a prodigy and his best friend Hassan who embark on a road trip after Colin is dumped for the nineteenth time by a girl named Katherine (K-19).  This book is well written and I enjoyed the character growth throughout the book. All of the characters are likable and  I finished the story rather quickly.  If you are looking for a well-written easy read pick up a copy of  this book.  You will not regret it!

A Tree Grows in Brooklyn: Betty Smith

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This is my favorite book ever!  I absolutely love it and feel like I discover something new about the book vary time I read it!  I have a tradition of reading this book once every year because I enjoy it so much!  This story is a classic and focuses on Frances (Francie) Nolan, her life, family, observations while growing up in Brooklyn, and how she grows throughout the novel.  It is amazing and whenever I start it I just can’t put it down!  If you are looking for a new and interesting read buy this book and you will not be disappointed.

Me Before You: Jojo Moynes

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My absolute favorite book of the year!  I was so invested in this story and characters that I was not able to put the book down!  It was one of the better books that I read in a really long time and I throughly enjoyed it!  Be forewarned that you will probably need tissues or be sad when reading parts of the story.  I want to re-read this story again soon.  It has been made into a movie and I am apprehensive about seeing it because I am afraid it will ruin the book.  Most movies that are made based off of book do not a. turn out crappy b. do not do justice to the book or c. do not follow the book at all and it makes me angry.  Go buy this book or the ebook version and read it today!