Ominous Online Dating

Dating has really gotten burdensome to me lately. Since my last relationship I have had no luck whatsoever and it sucks. I mean I have gone on dates but rarely has it passed beyond the first date. It has been so disheartening. It is like the universe is sending me signs that I am destined to be single the rest of my days.  That is not true but it feels like that right now.  I mean how many guys do I have to date to find my most compatible man?  At the rate I am going I will be alone for quite a long while.

My lackluster dating life must be the universe telling me that I need to work on myself or that I should take break from dating.   The guys I have been chatting with have not been impressive.  They seem to just be after sex or ghost you in the middle of the conversation.  I jumped into the online dating world full force after my last relationship ended and when all of my friends have been in successful relationships  It is so hard to be the only single one or constantly searching for love.  Maybe this is the time to truly narrow down what I am looking for in partner and to fix the shortcomings of myself.

 

 

All I want is the love like some of my friends have in their relationships.  I want someone to choose me everyday, prioritize me, and spend quality time with me.  I want to find someone who compliments me and just helps make my life better.  The most important test is when we hit bumps in the road during a relationship.  Like my parens say:  “When something is broke you fix and you do not throw it away”.  They have had fights ver the years and have always fixed things and made things work.  They never gave up on their relationship due something that was temporary.  That is the relationship that I want.  The image below has things that I want in a relationship!  The things below will help a relationship be strong and last.

 

 

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Weekly Wonders Lush Edition

I was fed up with my usual night and morning routine face cleanser. I needed a change and went to the local Lush store to see what goodies they had. My skin was in a funk and in need of a change in products and figured to go more natural and find products that wouldn’t disrupt my skin.  Here are the products that I found.*This post is NOT sponsored by Lush and I am not affiliated with Lush in any capacity.  All opinions are my own and I love share products that I have tried with my readers.

9 to 5 Cleansing Lotion

This is an easy breezy cleansing lotion that also removes makeup.  I enjoy using this product because it is convieniet and leaves my skin feeling refreshed after I use it.  Also, it is fantastic at removing makeup too!.  There is no need for makeup wipes anymore.  This lotion smells nice and my skin is not irritated by this product.  I have been using it for two weeks now and I am in love with it.  I threw out the remainder of my old facial lotion.  This is great for the busy college student or working professional.

Mask of Magnaminty

This body and facial scrub smells so good and works just as well!  I do not use this often usually when my skin is really having a bad day.  This helps soothe and calm mt skin when it is red or when I have acne.  The best part is that it smells amazing!  I love the smell of mint because it is so refreshing!  Try this scrub out!

Cup O’ Coffee

This is another amazing smelling scrub.  I like the smell of this one better than the Mask of Magnaminty.  This scrub essential works the same way as the magnaminty mask it just smells differently. It leaves your skin feelings refreshed and rejuvenated.  This mask helps liven up the skin and will make it look and feel better.  Coffee is one of my favorite things to drink and this product smells just like the perfect cup of jo.

Chocolate Lip Scrub

Over the years I have neglected the care of my lips.  Since I live in the South and the sun is a lot stronger than up North I have decided to care for my lips as well.  I use this twice a week and it is amazing.  It cleanses m lips and removes the head skin that has accumulated.  The best part is you can lick off the excess scrub because this product is natural.  It smells and tastes like chocolate and I love it!  This product will help my lips stay healthy during the hot summer months.

Ambrosia Shaving Cream

This is the first shaving product that I have used from Lush.  I usually use Barbasol or SKintimate shaving cream but my legs kept getting irritated from some ingredients in the shaving cream.  I decided that I had enough and I could not stand the itchy bumps that formed after I used the the other shaving creams.  I picked out this shaving cream from Lush to help with the irritation.  This cream has totally helped with the irritation but I do not love it.  I need a lot of product to cover my legs and it wastes so much of the product.  On the bright side my legs have not been irritated.  When this product runs out I will try another shaving cream from Lush and let you know how it works.

Products to Try

Shower Jelly

This product looks awesome!  It comes in a variety of scents, colors, and just looks like a fun product.  It is different than what is out there and it is made by Lush so you know it is good quality!  Pines and Needles looks like an amazing smelling jelly.  I love a woodsy or piny scent because it reminds me of Christmas trees.  But sadly this scent is not going to be produced anymore so that Lush can make room for new products.  I will get one before it goes and also look into its new scents and colors.

The Olive Branch Shower Gel

I came cross this product while searching the web for some good Lush products.  This is looks interesting and moisturizing.  The reviews on the Lush website are great.  When I run out of my current shower gel I will need to try this one.

What Lush products do you love?  What are your thoughts of the ones that I have used? Any recommendations of Kush product that I should try out?

 

 

 

Pub Crawl Revelations

So, last weekend some friends and I went to a bar crawl around my neighborhood.  It was fun and I had an absolute blast!  However, I was not expecting things to get deep and revelational with my friends.  It could have been the alcohol talking but what they said and topics they touched upon hit a nerve with me.  The convo focused on a topic that I did not want to focus on but was probably meant to be focused of on that day: relationships.  It was one of those things that just seemed to happen at the right time under completely odd circumstances.  So let me not leave you hanging and dive into what the pub-crawl and alcohol my friend’s consumed reveal.  Like the saying goes the only honest people are children and drunks.

Relationships

Some friends at the pub crawl are in either new or long term relationships.  So, of course we talk about relationships and guys.  I mention how I am single, looking for a compatible man, exes, and what makes a good relationship.  I was saying how I wish that I was in a relationship because most of my friends are in long term relationships, engaged, or married.  For me it is frustrating to see others find a good companion and I am struggling to even get dates.  It is like I want to give up and just be single for the rest of my life.  I  know the former statement is totally ridiculous but at this rate I am batting zero.

One of my friends who is in a long term relationship and getting ready to move in with her boyfriend basically vented and said things that I didn’t want to hear and never thought about.  She was a bit drunk so it could be the alcohol talking but she basically said that I am lucky to be single.  My jaw nearly hit the floor.  She said that I was lucky because I was able to do what I wanted and go wherever I please without worrying about a significant other.  She said that couples and relationships can seem perfect from the outside but you do not know what things are like behind closed doors or what is not shown on social media. She gave up certain things for her relationship like going out with friends on weekends, certain freedoms, hanging out with just her friends or family.  She has to accommodate her boyfriend and deal with some people she didn’t like or she could not just go out by herself sometimes or felt guilty when she did.  Basically, she said that I should not rush or wish that I was in a serious relationship because you do not know the sacrifices people make and ultimately give up certain freedoms you have when you are single.  SO, guess I realized that maybe not all couples are truly happy and that some people stay in unsatisfying relationships due to societal or family pressures or to keep up with the Jonses.  Also, my friend maybe was being for than a bit honest because she was drunk and possibly not fully happy in her current relationship.

For now I am single and will continue to search for a man that is my perfect fit.  I mean there is a little part of me that wants to experience the love that my friends are experiencing.  That is what I want right now is love and companionship.

The Law of Attraction

No, this has nothing to do with attracting guys.  I had a feeling you would be thinking that based on the above section.  This had to do with a more philosophical approach to life and thoughts. is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life. The simple version of this is that we attract whatever we think about good or bad.

My friends basically told me instead of comparing myself to my non-single friends and wishing I had what they had I should be happy for them, I should change my way of thinking about seeking a relationship and how I feel about others relationships.  If I bring out positive vibes about those topics then positive vibes will come back to me.  This positive thinking applies to every thing in life.  Basically this was a wake up call to me and that I need to start viewing things in a more positive light and get a little happier.  I should not envy what people have or what type of relationships they are in.  Instead I should be supportive and happy for them and wish them the best and that their relationship flourishes.  This was an awesome conversation I had with some of my friends and one that was surely uncommon to be discussed int he middle of a bar with drunkards all around.  I have realized that septimes good and needed things happen in the most unusual places.  This was one of those times and it was a conversation that has impacted me for the better.  But that is some serious stuff going on at the bar.

 

The above topics and conversations helped make the bar crawl very memorable.  If this is what the first one looks like then I can’t imagine hat the next pub-crawl will look like.  I am so excited to see what happens anss what things we talk about next.