So, I promised all of you readers out there that I would follow up with you after I went on my first Tinder date. My luck was greater than one because I had three Tinder dates with two different men, I went on one date with one and two dates with the other. I approached the dates with with no expectations or pre-conceived notions. I was quite surprised and I think you will be too.
The first guy out of the two we will call B. I was hopeful about meeting B because we had good conversation over the app and through text. We set a date to meet but details were not finalized until the day of the date. This is a big turn off for me If you ask me out then plan the damn date. I know I am at fault here too because I could have turned the date down. I get that he is a busy guy because he is in grad school, works, and has a far commute for his job and school. I totally understand that but it’s not an excuse for lack of planning and I did not get a good first impression of this guy. He wanted to do things around his schedule which rubbed me the wrong way and it showed he had no consideration for me. I had to tell him I could not do the time he originally suggested because I already had plans that night. Since everything was do so last minute I as in no way canceling my plans. If he planned earlier that would not have been an issue but i threw out times and he rejected them which annoyed me. I had these plans, a close friends birthday, before he asked me out. When everything was finally set, I was more at ease.
Basically it was a low key date. We met at a coffee shop, tried to go to hike a local park but couldn’t find parking spots so we wound up going to a pub for a drink. The date was going well because we were there for two hours and didn’t get kicked out or ask us to leave. I was late to the party because we just had a good conversation flow going on and when we parted there was a mention of a second date the following weekend.
Update: Even though we clicked with conversation on the first date and chatted thereafter we ha don second date. According to him I will not “clique” with him and he would be too much for me (whatever that means). It was fine and I’m cool with it. That is what happens when you date.
The second first date I went on I enjoyed even better then the first one! We will call this guy T. T planned ahead and picked a great brunch spot for our date. He looked like his pictures but was defiantly heavier than his photos. Which means his photos were not recent. But everything else checked out so I could get over the weight issue. In reality post current pictures guys, it makes a difference. We hit it off instantly and our conversation was non-stop. T and I have visited some of the same places so we chatted about that. The waitress did not rush us out considered it was peak brunch time and packed. We parted ways and that same night he texted me to let me know he had a great time. Guess it is a good sign. We chatted throughout the week and nothing was mentioned about a second date. So, I figured I would initiate a second date. I threw out two options and he didn’t really seem to dig either of them nor did he suggest an alternative that he would like. I just picked one and we went to a German beer hall/restaurant for our second date.
This date was initiated and planned by me. It occurred a week after our second date and again we just chatted away and were not rushed out. T said he enjoyed this date was well and will defiantly like to go out again the upcoming weekend. We have been talking since the second date and that is a another good sign. I will have to wait and see what happens for a third date. The ball is in his court now since I initiated and planned the second date.
The two first dates I had showed me that there are decent guys on Tinder. I found them with a lot of filtering through matches. I am pretty picky in general but even more so on Tinder due to its reputation. I was glad that I went on both dates. Even if no second date came it was still a good experienced.
Even though the dates turned out good it is so much work to get a response or find decent men. Sometimes all of the work that I need to go through makes me want to stay single.